Whether you're exploring the swinger lifestyle for the first time or have enjoyed shared passions in the past, introducing a new partner to swinging is a complex and delicate experience. In a world where we are socialized to believe that monogamy is the "norm" (how boring!), sometimes both we and our partners must disconnect from this unnecessary programming in order to get in touch with our true sexual selves. The only real, healthy, active swinging relationship that can exist is one with mutual consent, so it's key to get the discussion started in a respectful way that acknowledges your partner's needs, insecurities and boundaries.

Ginger shared us her story about how she and her husband met another couple in Maspalomas with the help of the swinger symbol worn on their jewelry...

​We're continually hearing that we could be having better sex, a superior climax, or a superior relationship. Be that as it may, how regularly do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can, in reality, better understand our most profound wants and most embarrassing questions? In an article published in BUSTLE, Vanessa Marin, a sex advisor, and therapist enlightened us to go out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. 

Planning a threesome and choosing the right play partner is a fragile and complex task. On the off chance that you mess it up, you could demolish your relationship and life forever. Just joking. Be that as it may, there is a craftsmanship, and etiquette, to organizing a ménage à trois. It resembles an evening gathering - one wrong visitor and the entire dynamics are off.

Each couple in this lifestyle makes various guidelines to secure their relationship. These principles will often evolve after some time to all the more likely match that works for the couple's relationship.

If your marriage has been monogamous, and you’re thinking about some kind of non-monogamy, at that point you’re considering about a change. Change is a risk. In another circumstance, you may end up shocked by your emotions and needs and decisions. You may wind up astonished by other individuals’ emotions and necessities and decisions. You may find that these sudden emotions and necessities and decisions are not the stable feelings and needs and choices you have had envisioned - and truth be told, “The reality upsets us”.

As exciting and wonderful the rewards of swinging can be, the flip side of the lifestyle genuinely comes with some real stresses and risks. You must have brainstorming discussions with your partner to check whether you are both comfortable with the dangers and share your concerns with each other. You need to cooperate when deciding if the risks involved in swinging are worth taking in your stable relationship along with its potential rewards.

​In spite of the fact that most of the swinging will finish up involving lovemaking and getting frisky with one another’s partners, it isn’t as simple as that. Swinging is about creating an atmosphere of warmth and being pleasured.

​Contrary to popular thoughts that there are no signs or symbols that swingers use to attract different swingers, in many cases, it appears that a few people are continually searching for a systematic approach to check out whether a friend, neighbor or colleague is a swinger.